The way straight men talk when they don’t think anyone else is around is fucking terrifying.
#so many trans women FUCKING DESPISE men #like #really really hate men #this is why
see, this is what I shoulda said in the original post. She made it better.
I’m gonna delete the original now cause all those notes are annoying me.
Seriously. Absolutely fucked up. I never thought about this, but wow, cis women don’t even know. This makes a lot more sense now about why cis women are sometimes genuinely surprised to hear my serious criticism of a man for the way he acts around me (or what I easily can tell from his social behavior.) “Really?” Because this experience has been part of my life pretty much since I started grade school, I never consciously realized that others didn’t know what men are like.
I’m also now realizing that my aversion to men that I had so much trouble explaining and weird feelings around expressing now make total sense.
right? like there’d be these guys and cis women would be like ‘oh, he’s so sweet’ and i’d be like…. what?? that guy??
i mean, ive got a whole lot more reasons to hate men than this, but this is a huge part of it. most women really don’t realize, like, how much collective solidarity men have in not judging each other for this shit and keeping it secret and everything. and hell, there’s been a few times where i’ve specifically tried to warn cis women about certain guys and of course they didn’t believe me.
but, no, seriously, cis women: guys are way more awful than you think. that sweet, friendly guy? you don’t even want to know what he says about you when you’re not around.
So much this.
Like, cis woman think that when we say stuff like “when you are a trans woman, you get to see how cruel men really are” that we are only talking about when they are enacting transmisogyny on us.
And while that would give insight, by then we already know how horrible they are. When we are closeted and parsed as other men, they are completely open about how fucking disgusting they are.
Another reason why trans women being male-socialized is such bullshit. Being around men like this doesn’t force us to internalize positive messages about men, we internalize the negative we hear about women and we are scared.
My father and someone who has helped me a lot in AA happen to be ones I get these messages from regularly.
agreeing with this so much.
I understand all of this way too well.
And to be honest, I had it really horribly. Through high school I played hockey, for the school and in a separate league, and every single time we were getting ready for anything in a dressing room, it was constant talk about how their girlfriends are ‘bitches’ and how they could always do better. Constant homophobic jokes, laughing at other people’s nudity (or shyness when it comes to it). Demeaning slurs, constant put-downs, and body-shaming abounded, and I was laughed at when I didn’t partake in it. They even told me that if I didn’t get laid soon, I should probably give up on life. Not because I haven’t found someone. But because I hadn’t had sex. There were times they even advocated the use of force, saying that it was “sometimes necessary” to get what they wanted.
It pretty much scared me for years. At that time, I wanted to be more feminine, but I was worried that any sign of femininity would give them a reason to lash out at me. Once I quit hockey though, I started to feel a bit better, and, as I hang out with less and less shitheads like that, I’m getting more and more confident about doing what I want.
Still, I wonder if it’s because I’m somewhat feminine, and people pick up on that, or if my roommates don’t say anything like that just because I came out to them…
Talk and jokes about date rape/violence/just anything non consensual was a fairly common topic, practically just what you do if she doesn’t want to have sex with you. “Scoring’ with an incredibly drunk girl was like getting bonus points. Your girlfriend getting mad at you for cheating was her being a ‘psycho bitch’. Constant complaints about how girls are so picky and up themselves, when these guys barely showered on a weekly basis, feeling entitled, and like a girl was a ‘bitch’ for not wanting to get with a pile of slime.
My distrust towards people isn’t just male-centric, but I definitely agree with the above and fucking christ, sometimes I wish I could have my more masculine body back to floor guys who say or do things that are just disgusting. But it’s just seen as normal. Expected. I now expect to be yelled at from passing cars, groups of guys to stare at me whilst talking amongst themselves. That’s how things are, I know.
Still doesn’t change that I wish pre-estrogen, ‘take on half the football team on my own and win’, me could make a surprise visit every now and then.
Nobody should be putting up with this. It’s some goddamn shit.
On a more specific topic though, with a 1 in 12 murder rate for trans women, and knowing what guys are like. Fuck yes we have damn good reason to be afraid.
We’re just trying to exist and make our lives a little more comfortable for ourselves, all while making sure we don’t get killed.
eating disorder recovery is pretty fucking badass
if food is seen as “the enemy”, think about it
you’re literally devouring your enemies and getting stronger from that
Casually reblogging for those who think me, or any one recovering an illness is lazy. We fight everyday.
top 10 things i look for in guys!!!
- i don’t
- get out of my sight
This is how i imagine straight mens brains work
You know when you’re little spoon and sleeping with someone and you wake up a little and scoot your butt and back towards them and they just so happen to be awake too and pull you in closer and you fall back asleep? Yeah. That.
Being on either end of that is super lovely and cute n.n, I’m spoon-flexible.
I need 500 platonic cuddle girlfriends and we just do cutesy stuff and cuddle and drink tea and not wear shirts
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GDI Kyary my angel
Tony Abbott School of Feminist Studies
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Sugar glider on a finger
"I never even notice the wheelchair."
“When I look at you, I don’t see the wheelchair.”
“Wheelchair. What wheelchair?”
Behold, my fellow persons with disabilities! I have successfully figured out why so many able-bodied people are terrified of us. They look at us and see random people floating several feet in the air in a sitting-position while demonically jerking our arms to move around!
Ugh, all these fangirls pretending to be REAL Hannibal fans. I bet you’ve never even eaten a person
"their mouths met and their tongUES DUELED FOR DOMINANCE. THE LOSER’S TONGUE WOULD BE SENT TO THE SHADOW REALM”
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